This past May, one of the most awesome couples I have ever had the privilege of knowing got married. My oldest brother, Matt, and his now-wife, Kira, said their vows in late May and I'm fairly certain it was one of the best weddings that has ever happened on this earth.
Now, one might wonder why I have such high regards for these two.
Well I'll tell ya.
These two lovebirds have been together since their junior year of high school.
Seven years of love and commitment have passed between the two of them.
For five of those seven years, the two have been split by a four hour time difference, with Kira at K-State and Matt at Mizzou. But they made it work, and beautifully at that.
I think this is incredible.
See, as some of you might have read in one of my previous blogs, I'm in love with a boy named Ben. We've been together for about six months, and he is my very best friend. I had to say a very tear-y goodbye to him last night in my driveway, as I left for Dayton this morning while he started the first day of his senior year. I'm so ridiculously excited for him as he heads off his new year as a Stuco officer, a member of Senior Exec, and a new Eagle Scout. I'm positive that he will do incredible things this year and change lives because that's what he does best. But that goodbye was one of the hardest things I've done in a long time. I know it's just a see ya later, and I'm throwing myself a pity party when other people have it so much worse off than I do, but it really does hurt to know I'm not seeing the boy I love for months.
I know there's a ton more of you out there who are going through similar situations; whether it be moving for college, the military, or even saying goodbye to someone who is not a significant other, or whatever... There are a lot of people out there that are hurting and worried and terrified about this exact same thing.
But guys and gals, here's the thing.
I know there's that whole phrase that goes,
“If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours." But I don't know that I totally agree, especially in the situation of long distance couples. See, my thought is, if you love someone, work to keep them yours. Don't let them go! I think people have this perception of relationships nowadays that if you are "meant to be" that you can kick back and relax and things will work as they will, or that things are supposed to be easy with the one you love. But I don't believe that's true for a regular relationship, much less a long distance one. You have to put in work and love and time and your life. Because that's what a relationship is... It's your life intertwined with another person's. That's a precious, precious thing. Letting go of something so beautiful just seems to be an injustice to me.
So I rambled on for a while I guess. But I think essentially what I want you guys to get out of this is that with long distance, life is hard, but it's SO worth it (or at least I have the highest hopes that it will be). Just work hard for the people you love, guys. And if you're in the same situation as I am, let me know and we can help guide each other through this. Cause life is easier that way :)
Anyway, thanks for reading guys.
Much love,
Nikki
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