It's quite possible that I will never be a size two, and I'm starting to think that's okay... Which is kind of weird.
Why is that weird?
Well you see, I've grown up in a society that tells me that the higher the clothing size, the less that person is worth.
Now I'm not saying that this is every single person's opinion. I mean, obviously not.
But Hollywood, media, and high school seem to tell me that the ideal size is about a four, with a perfect rack and butt to match, and anything different than that is wrong.
To those girls that have that body: Rock the frick on! You keep working what you have. I think you all are gorgeous girls.
But what about the rest of us?
Is it fair that I regularly have thoughts like, "hey, if I dropped (more than) a few pounds, maybe I would be beautiful"?
Is it fair that I see so many girls who are absolutely stunning, looking at their bodies like these horrid, awful traps, rather than their homes?
I don't really think so.
I mean, yeah, I could lose some weight. The college diet is not necessarily the most picture-perfect health food diet, and my body is well aware of that. So I should eat my veggies, drop the Chinese food and work out a few times per week.
But just because I don't look like a celebrity, I enjoy an occasional crab rangoon, and I don't get around to doing squats every day of my life, I don't want to feel like I'm not beautiful or hot or whatever.
And I certainly don't want any other girls to think negatively about themselves.
Now don't get me wrong, I think being in good health is what we should work for, always.
But to be bigger (or even, to be smaller) than the "ideal size" does not, by any means, mean you are not beautiful! And it by NO means determines your worth.
To quote Mary Lambert,
You are no less valuable as a size 16 than a size 4.You are no less valuable as a 32A than a 36C.
In fact, right now it seems more than necessary to recommend listening to this spoken word poem. Like, now.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-gBH4sSLfA
Now that you've (hopefully) listened...
Mary made it clear.
We as a society cannot continue to judge people simply by what size jeans they wear, or what their cup size is. We cannot judge ourselves this way anymore. I cannot continue to wake up in the morning and judge whether I deserve to be loved simply by looking in the mirror. That, quite frankly, is bull.
I don't want to look around at the world anymore and have my heart broken over and over by seeing girls who don't love themselves because someone told them that they weren't beautiful... even if the source of that lie was their own mind.
It's got to end girls. We have to take control of our minds. I don't care what pants size you are, what the measurement is around your waist, if you're flat-chested or curvy. This is your time to embrace your body and love what you're working with. What some man says to you or thinks about you does not determine your worth. Your worth is determined by God, and He has made you beautifully. Something I've been thinking a lot about lately - if the creator of the universe thinks you're beautiful then who gives a flying flip what anyone else thinks.
I know it's so hard to go ahead and say, "I'm going to think of myself positively now." I am a girl as well, readers, so I KNOW how hard that is. But we've got to do it. We've got to stop those negative thoughts in their tracks, and turn them around into positive comments. Recognizing the positives is so key. Not just about ourselves, but about other girls too.
No more "ugly," no more "fat," no more hate.
Be kind to yourselves and others, simply because you deserve it.
New Years Mantra: You are beautifully made, you are strong, you are worthy. Love yourself because you deserve it and love others because they deserve it. Be the woman you were made to be.
You are worth the love.
- Nikki
Afterthoughts:
Now I didn't even touch on boys, their self-images, or their feed into girls self-hatred. But guys, I'm calling out to you too. Please stop recognizing girls in these harsh terms, as well as yourselves. Everyone is beautifully and wonderfully made; treat them (including yourself) as such.
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